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Summary.
As working parents with a seemingly endless array of responsibilities, it can be hard to make space for our own needs. But the benefits of taking care of ourselves, whether that’s physically, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally, are undeniable. We need space outside of home and work to explore interests, decompress, and find personal fulfillment. But how do you communicate those needs to your spouse or partner, without feeling shame or guilt for taking time for yourself? First, know what you need. Then, choose a time to have the discussion that is free of distractions, relatively calm, and likely to be when neither of you is overtired. Have one another’s health and well-being in mind, and actively listen to hear the heart behind your partner’s statements. Be willing to give a little; don’t expect to have only your demands met. Finally, do regular relationship checkups with your partner to foster connection and open communication.In these difficult times, we’ve made a number of our coronavirus articles free for all readers. To get all of HBR’s content delivered to your inbox, sign up for the Daily Alert newsletter.
The morning rush: shower, eat breakfast, get the kids dressed, start the day. The day: meetings, then calls, then more meetings. The evening: dinner, baths, bedtimes. Climb into bed, only to start over again. Lather, rinse, repeat.